‘Preparation’ Over ‘Appearance’
For many of us, it’s also linked to confidence. “My confidence is partly connected to how I look, and I think that’s inevitable in our society,” says Alex. “It does make me feel good about myself when I’ve got an outfit on that I’m happy with — and red lipstick can definitely help me feel confident.”
Several academic studies have confirmed a link between wearing make-up and increased self-esteem, but Alex stresses this isn’t her main metric. “I think what plays a much bigger part in how confident I feel is if I’m completely prepared for whatever [I’m doing]”
“If it’s an interview, for example, have I done my research? Do I have my questions ready? Do I feel like I know what I’m talking about? Being good and diligent at my job has always made me feel more confident than how I look.”
Jenny Holliday, a journalist who’s written for publications such as Refinery29, Glamour, and Grazia has a similar sentiment. “For me, it’s about preparation rather than appearance. But, with appearance in mind, I tend to wear my hair down, and at least ‘do’ my eyebrows. That makes me feel more ready.”
For those like me who are still pitching for our first journalism jobs, it’s reassuring to know that most journalists put the quality of your work ahead of how you choose to present yourself. And yet, still, the doubts swirl round and round in my head.
Because I remember feeling invisible at university, people looking me up and down — as if deciding how to treat me. I remember people rolling their eyes, huffing, not hearing my ideas. I remember forgetting my mascara at work one day and my manager asking why I looked so tired. Such memories don’t fade overnight — so how do I find my confidence?